Thursday, January 9, 2014


The modern world measures success in what material possessions we own and/or in our social status in the community. Thus we often end up focusing our time and energies on doing what it takes to make enough money to buy the things we think we need or trying to move ahead in our social status. But we are "human beings" not "human doings"!It is important to be the kind of "human being" we hope to be. Being intentional about developing ourselves as the kind of person we choose to become, leads us to a more peaceful and purposeful life.

People even compare their "busy-ness" with others hoping to one-up each other on how they're doing in moving toward these goals as if busy-ness itself equaled success. At one point in my life I was "over-busy", caught up in what I thought was expected of me as a professional working with troubled youth. I had my Franklin Planner with me at every meeting, filled with activities, meetings, and to-do lists. I remember one meeting sitting around a table where everyone had their planners out and trying to come up with another meeting time that worked for everyone. Everyone talked with pride about how busy they were, as if the busier they were, the more successful they were. It dawned on my then that this was a strange way to measure success. Have you noticed that when you ask people how they are, that many people answer with "busy"? After that meeting I began to talk less about being busy. I tried to focus more intentionally on the kind of person I wanted to become and the kind of life I wanted to live, focusing on what was important to me. Thus began the project of INTENTIONAL LIVING. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with planning or Franklin Planners, but when you base your importance on filling up that planner it can get in the way of what is truly important.

 Susie Steiner, a nurse, recorded 5 top regrets of the dying.  Listed here are the reasons she found:

1) I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2) I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
3) I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
4) I wish that I had let myself be happier.
5) I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Are you ready to create an intentional life without regrets? Live your life purposefully? Become the kind of person you intend to be? Begin now! Go here to learn all about it.

It is necessary to the happiness of man that he be mentally faithful to himself.  Thomas Paine


  1. I do try.....and my biggest regret is that I wouldn't open up the purse strings and travel more in my 30s. :(

    1. You can travel NOW! It's never too late!

  2. This is a good post!
    It certainly makes you stop and think....

    1. Thanks! Yes it helps to stop and consider your life! Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to leave a comment!

  3. Present day rat race life style is crazy. The by-product of this is malignant stress. Being alive in the present moment enjoying it fully is the secret of everlasting happiness and success. I have seen many 'successful' people who just cannot smile sincerely or laugh wholeheartedly. They lost that faculty altogether ! Stress has polluted their minds.
    Being alive, living intentionally, aware of everything that is being experienced by our senses require training.
    Added your blog to my blog follow, joined google connect, subscribed posts, comments via feed burner, okay?
    Good post !

  4. Hi, Rajiv,
    Thanks for your comments and following along with me here. Sounds like we are like-minded!

  5. Thanks for the (very) thought provoking post...
    I guess I hadn't really thought about those "busy" people...and their busy lives.
    I guess I've always thought my life must seem rather boring to them :)
    I try to live in the moment as much as possible but your post puts things into perspective and is a great reminder....thank you!


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